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ABOUT TUĞÇE


The Coach with Heart & Purpose. 

My name is Tuğçe Koçoğlu-Hobden (pronounced Toochi) and I am the Founder of Coaching with Heart & Purpose and Host of Light Conversations.

I was born in the beautiful city of Istanbul in Turkey, I took my first steps in Warsaw and my earliest memories are of falling off a swing in Berlin, and watching tropical fish swim gracefully by from a glass bottomed boat in the French Virgin Island of St Croix. I went to kindergarten and first grade in Chicago before moving to London when I was 6. I now live in South West Hertfordshire with my husband and two children.

I was a curious child and developed an interest in people, culture and psychology at a very young age. I knew from early on that one day I would work in the field of Personal Development. Although my path has not exactly been straightforward!

Fast forward, many years later and I am still very curious and passionate about people and finally back on my path working as a Certified Transformational Coach*, specialising in Leadership and Life Coaching.

I am also a Certified Kundalini Yoga Teacher, having completed my 200HR YTT Teacher Training at Kundalini University**.  Kundalini Yoga is also often called the Yoga of Awareness.  It is a practice designed to give you the tools you need to attain consciousness.

I consider myself an alchemist and an explorer, blending the power of Transformational Coaching with the ancient Wisdom, Science and Technology of Kundalini.

Both Transformational Coaching and Kundalini Yoga are two powerful technologies, facilitating the development process of awareness, growth and change on a deep and long lasting level. I believe that blending them accelerates our growth and expansion exponentially.

I also teach automatic writing, helping turn journaling into channeling, by connecting with our inner wisdom, to receive guidance on everyday challenges.

It is my mission to help you re-discover what you are truly capable of, to reclaim your superpowers and unveil your master within. 

Over the years I have learnt to embrace my introvert, empathic and sensitive nature. I LOVE meeting new people, having meaningful conversations - I'm afraid I don't do small talk well! As much as I enjoy socialising it can leave me drained but I have learned to tune into to my body and know when it's time to say no, step back and recharge.

Creativity is one of my gifts. I love cooking (although not everyone may enjoy my creations as much as I do!), painting and drawing.

As well as having a daily practice of Kundalini Yoga and Meditation, I am a passionate off-road runner and I also coach my daughter's U9 football (soccer!) team. I believe that football/soccer needs support from the divine feminine! 

Prior to becoming a Transformational Coach, I gained my BA (HONS) in Psychology & Communications. After graduating I spent 18 months travelling our beautiful planet before feeling I 'ought to'  get a real job.

I spent the next 18 years working in Global Digital Media Planning developing integrated Digital and Offline strategies for many Fortune 100 companies: HTC, Vodafone, Sony CE, PlayStation, Hewlett Packard Inc and Apple.

As an Executive Director I managed and led multi-million pound Global accounts so I understand Senior Clients's business needs, how to effectively build teams, nurture and develop them through training, appraisals, mentorship and coaching. I also understand collective success, the power of diversity and how to empower people to work productively, collaboratively and build great relationships. Having worked on a global scale I know what it means to be empathetic to every person, no matter what their role and no matter where they are, by encouraging and inspiring them to align to a common outcome.

On paper I was "successful" but I was out of alignment. My work-life balance was non-existent, I was addicted to my phone, my people pleasing tendencies were on over-drive, the victim/blame mindset became my default mode, I suffered from awful mummy guilt, I sought comfort in food, I was permanently exhausted and developed a very weak immune system due to being in a constant state of anxiety and stress. My natural state of being had become fight, flight or freeze and I did not know how to get off this hamster wheel I was stuck on!

Until, finally, I woke up.

So, I understand what it is like to stray from your path, to suffer from burnout and to not listen to your body when it is telling you that something is wrong. I know what it is like to get stuck on the career ladder and be terrified about how you make THAT leap when you have a family to support.

But I now know we have to trust, that we are ALL capable of making changes and creating shifts, when we take a moment to slow down, be still and  listen to our inner wisdom and hearts.

By taking purposeful and aligned action, these small, powerful shifts, can have a huge lasting impact in our lives.

*Animas's Dip. in Transformational Coaching (DTC) is Accredited by the Association for Coaching, the UK's largest professional body, and the International Coaching Federation (ICF).

**Kundalini University 200-hour Yoga Teacher Training - Certified Yoga Teacher.  Yoga Alliance RYT 200-Hour approval.

COACHING


Why Coaching?
If you are reading this, you may be wondering if Coaching is right for you.

Coaching is a collaborative process.  I support my clients to heal, release past wounds, find emotional balance, overcome embedded patterns, subconscious blocks and habits that no longer serve them, empowering them to rewrite their scripts and to become the authors of their lives. Reflection is important but action is key in the coaching process.

I support clients to become confident navigators of their boats flowing down the river to the ocean of destiny or goals. I provide you with the tools and technologies to learn how to navigate through the choppy waters, or around the rocks you will come across. Sometimes you'll have to go back upstream. In this physical, three dimensional world, we are always going to encounter obstacles as we flow through our river of life, but it's how we handle them, how we raise our awareness to know how to navigate around the obstacles is what is key and makes the journey of life enjoyable. As you strengthen your own personal GPS or compass, you will allow the winds to take your sails to guide you to where you want to go, instead of allowing the winds to throw you to rocks or getting caught up in the storm. You learn to use your emotions as tools, not be a slave to them, to use your breath as your anchor and to become a great navigator and explorer.

Some challenges you may be facing
:
  • Unfulfilled in your current career and/or  looking to change direction or try something new
  • Have money mindset challenges
  • Find yourself emotionally reactive to others or life situations
  • Feeling stressed, anxious and overwhelmed
  • Find it difficult to follow through your vision and goals
  • Have a negative, fixed or lack mindset
  • Difficulty imagining your future self
Through the work we do, you will be empowered, show-up authentically, take steps to make your vision your reality and to lead the life you've always desired.

I support people to:
  • Overcome overwhelm, anxiety and stress
  • To manage their emotions and turn them into tools in business and in their professional life
  • Find their purpose
  • Face and embrace redundancy 
  • Develop a healthy money mindset
  • Reinvent themselves (lose weight, find a new career, live a healthier lifestyle)
  • Find true happiness 
  • Create boundaries 
  • Find love and build strong relationships
  • Up-level, step into their authentic selves and become the authors of their lives
My Coaching and teaching style is compassionate, non judgemental and is sprinkled with the right amount of challenge. I encourage all those I work with to take aligned action, to get comfortable with the discomfort, during growth periods and to allow for moments of stillness for the mind, body and soul to integrate.  This is where the alchemy happens!

If you are ready to transform your life then book a FREE consultation here and let's talk about how you can turn your goals and visions into reality and lead the life YOU have always wanted to live.  

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24Mar

The last few weeks have been very surreal.  Covid-19 has put the world in lockdown. Most of us will never have experienced anything like this.  However, one thing that we can be certain of, during this uncertain time, is that this will change the world we live in, permanently, and I remain optimistic that it will be for the better.

From my personal perspective, many of my projects were placed on hold as companies and clients reflected on the effects that Covid-19 was having on their businesses and themselves.  The logical part of my brain suggested I carry on as normal (we are hard wired with a normalcy bias), as I was anxious to reach my monthly financial target.  However, the tug of my intuition was greater, so I made the decision to put work aside and focus on setting a new foundation for myself and for my family and to “prepare” for this challenging time ahead.  It certainly felt like we were heading towards a marathon and not just a sprint.

My prep began with a review of my daily practices; over time many of these have become habits, and I am aware how easy it is to break a habit, than to form one.  These practices are the foundations of my self-care routine, which is fundamental to supporting my family.  Many of my clients will have heard me say 'put the oxygen masks on yourself first',  which not only enables us to thrive but those in our care too. These practices include meditating, running outdoors and yoga. These all help me with clarity whilst strengthening my physical, mental and spiritual well-being.  They also help me to feel grounded, balanced and calm. Other practices are automatic writing, journalling and keeping a gratitude journal.  

The challenge now was to find a way of integrating these practices into our new routine now that the children would be homeschooled as both my husband and I would be working from home. At this point I was grateful for my meditation practice (as well as some frantic journalling!) as the thought of homeschooling definitely made me feel anxious!

A routine is a must, this helps prime our brains for success. External factors such as the coronavirus, social distancing and social isolation are not within our control, therefore it helps to focus on the things that are within our control. Routine also benefits children as it provides them with a structure for their day. Children are used to having a school routine, so they will expect one at home.  A routine gives them a sense of security, helps them to feel safe and understand what is expected of them.  

However, there needs to be an element of flexibility and fluidity in any routine or structure we put into place and don’t be afraid to change it. It’s important to practice self-compassion when we catch ourselves judging or giving ourselves a hard time over not completing a task or sticking to the routine.  Practicing Loving-kindness (Metta) meditation helps to develop deeper self-compassion.

Awareness is key here.  Being aware of the negative, unhelpful self-talk, also on how long we spend on social media or watching/reading the news and how we respond or react to the external circumstances.  These are all within our control. Whilst the coronavirus is not, we have the ability to bring our awareness to our reactions or responses and choose the quality of our experience.

Although our entire world has been shaken through its very core, we can choose to resist (not advisable!) or to accept what is happening and choose to learn and grow from this experience.  Acceptance is not passive, or a 'meh' response or one of indifference. It is a conscious choice that we have to accept, without resistance, a situation or emotion that arises in the present moment. It doesn't mean we have to like it or agree with it either.  Just observe from a space of awareness and allow whatever it is to unfold without resistance or getting in the way, notice how life flows in a state of acceptance rather than resistance.

Manageable Practices To Help You:

The below have certainly been helping me to get through this challenging time. If you're a parent like me, these can also be adapted to involve children.  Mine have loved getting involved and I feel these practices have helped them feel grounded, safe and has reduced any anxiety they may have had and has certainly deepened our connection.

1. Meditation

I am sure many know the benefits; the positive impact it has on our mental health and that it reduces stress and anxiety, increases focus and attention but not forgetting, improves our immune system, which is so important right now.  

When meditating with children, starting with shorter practices of 5 minutes that can be gradually increased. There are plenty of videos on YouTube or you can create your own like I've done.  My 5 year old spends most of his meditation rolling around on the yoga mat but he enjoys, metaphorically, floating over his favourite woods holding onto his yellow balloon!

2. Intention Setting: 

Even when self isolating we can choose how we will 'show up' each day whether we are WFH, homeschooling or both.  This practice is just as important now for families who are living in close proximity with others as it can be a testing time!  It's another great one to involve the kids with although I wasn't sure at first if they would get it. However, I smiled when I read my 9 year old daughter's intention on our 1st day of homeschooling...“To start the week off in the best way I possibly can during this challenging time”.  

3. Gratitude

A daily gratitude practice strengthens our mental health, increases self-esteem, improves sleep amongst other things.  I write my list in my journal before bedtime. However if you’re just starting out, you might find it more manageable to start with 3 things and work your way up. Don’t get stuck on the time of the day, it can be anytime just choose what works for you. My kids love this one and I find it's a good one to do over dinner as a family. 

4. Choose well: 

By this I mean choose how much time you spend watching/reading the news, how much time you spend on social media and put a limit on it. I was shocked at how much my screen time has increased over the last couple of weeks. Allocate certain times of the day, keeping the information factual. It’s so easy to get caught up in the frenzy, which only adds to the anxiety, putting more stress on the body, releasing cortisol, thus weakening our immune system.  We need to be fit and healthy mentally and physically during this time.  Bringing our awareness to focus on the positives, the brain is hardwired towards a negativity bias. Therefore choosing positive stories, thoughts and a gratitude practice can help us to fight this bias.

5. Put the oxygen mask on yourself: 

With many of us juggling work and homeschooling, we will be finding it tough, so please make sure you carve out time for you and integrate self-care into your routine. Whether it’s going for a run, doing YouTube exercise videos, Yoga, or going for a walk, reading, journalling or going for a nap. ‘You’ time for your sanity and mental health is non-negotiable.

6. Small acts of kindness:  

Call your parents, vulnerable neighbours, or joining a local group to support the elderly and vulnerable in your community. Give someone the gift of listening, offer to get essential items or a food delivery (if you can!). Small act of kindness go such a long way.

7. Spend time in nature:

If you can, and within the social distancing guidelines! The benefits are endless and proven both for our mental health and physical health.  If you’ve got access to a garden, get out with the kids and make a bug hotel, make mud pies or go for a barefoot walk in the mud! Seriously! Grounding or Earthing, as it's known, has so many benefits and once again, is said to improve our immune system. 

There are no set times of the days to do these practices, add them to your routine but be fluid and don't give yourself a hard time if you miss one.  Sometimes it's just best to stay in PJ's, eat popcorn and watch movies!  

As individuals, communities, countries and as a species we are going to come out of this changed, stronger, more connected with a much greater understanding of ourselves, each other and our planet.

I shall leave you to ponder on this...

How do I make this obstacle the greatest thing that has ever happened to me? 

Get journalling. It's not like we haven't got the time!

Love,

Tuğçe x



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24Oct

It seems curious that 'busyness' has become such a status symbol of our times.  Why has busyness become a marker for success? We wear it like a badge of honour, "Oh I'm SOOOO BUSY!" When was the last time you heard someone exclaim that they weren't busy?

We are too busy to go on holiday, to switch off even when we are on holiday, we are so busy that we have to read our emails/social media feeds before bed and the minute we wake up...It is deemed perfectly normal to be glued to your smartphone and have your laptop surgically attached to you.

How and why have we forgotten the art, and maybe more importantly, the value of doing less and slowing down?

Let's rewind to 27 BC (ish), to the time of the Roman Emperor Augustus, who famously coined the term "Festina Lente!", translated as "Hasten, Slowly" or "Advance, Slowly" (given the military connotations).  Now this oxymoronic phrase was one of many he used, including "Better a safe commander than a bold""That which has been done well has been done quickly enough".  

Emperor Augustus was clearly a busy man himself, he had an Empire to build, soldiers to train, but his words seem sage-like for one who conquered most of Europe and beyond.  His considered and reflective approach seems to have served him and his empire well.

Fast forward to the year 2019 and Augustus's quote serves as a reminder that in order to get things done, it has to be done well, which does not mean quickly, nor simultaneously with everything on our mile-long to-do lists.

Of course, there are two millennia in between us and Augustus, but I still can't help but think there is a wisdom in his reflective style that we have forgotten.  Under all our mile-long to-do lists, goals the size of houses, constant need for likes and spinning more plates than we can handle is a need to be distracted. Have we become a generation that is afraid to pause, reflect, to go within and introspect?

The exponential growth of technology in this century has added to our life of distractions. According to one source the human brain is loaded with 34GB of information...daily! That's a HUGE amount of data, that would overload a laptop within a week.  

Microsoft research shows that our concentration span has fallen from 12 seconds from 2000 to 8 seconds in 2019. That's a 1/3 in the last 19 years, which seems quite significant.  Although not really a surprise given that everything is now bitesized, you only have to watch Peppa Pig!

Thankfully, we aren't computers and we can allow ourselves the space to reflect.  We can ourselves ask ourselves if "this attraction is a distraction?" and take a moment to slow down, pause and NOT react to the next what's app message that appears on our phone or the next email that pings into our inbox.

Not reacting is key, but not as easy as it sounds.  Scientific data shows we seek comfort in the instant gratification, it makes us feel momentarily better and gives us a dopamine high, which we may regret later. 

The origins to why we like being busy could go even deeper still, ranging from the inability to say no due to our social conditioning, not setting clear boundaries for ourselves or using it as a coping mechanism.  

Long term goals may not give us that dopamine hit that we so enjoy, but in order to pursue that promotion, to find that relationship, to create that financial stability we need to nurture ourselves and in order to advance, we have to go about it slowly and take our time.  But if all we are doing are the little instantly gratifying tasks, then there is no time to do the big things that make a difference in our lives and create a life of purpose.

Thankfully, as I mentioned above, we are not computers.  And we have a choice.

Next time we find ourselves telling others we are "So busy", let's take a moment to explore what it really means:

  1. Am I really saying...I'm overwhelmed, I'm more important than you, or I am avoiding someone or something in my life?  Take a moment or two for self reflection, perhaps we need support, what or who exactly are we avoiding or perhaps there is a deeper meaning behind why we are getting distracted.  Really try to hone in on what it is.
  2. Let's be kind and compassionate to ourselves as we would be towards others.  Don't let the gremlins in our head berate ourselves for taking time out to reflect and be a human being, after all we are not human doings.  Self care is key, especially if you have other people to support.

If we can recognise these elements within ourselves, then it's a great start.  Although we might feel uncomfortable with this introspection we can only move forward when we do AND when coupled with taking action it can help us to do things differently, thus avoiding burnout.

Going back to Emperor Augustus, if we remember his mantra in our modern day lives, and choose to take the time to reflect and see clearly. Pause and take a moment to imagine what is achievable. 

Coming from a guy who created the Roman Empire...it might actually be quite BIG.  

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